Matt Lauer, Marriage & The Gospel

This is a guest post from Christine Pack of the Sola Sisters blog.


According to a recent article, disgraced NBC talk show host Matt Lauer allegedly communicated to a friend that he had been blindsided by harassment allegations made against him by a fellow NBC employee because he had assumed that the sexual contact between them had been “consensual.”  By his comment, Lauer revealed his deep misunderstanding of what the covenant of marriage involves (e.g., fidelity to one’s spouse).

So to be clear: The God of the Bible was the One who created marriage.

Which means that:

The Hindu gods did not institute marriage.
Buddhism did not institute marriage.
Islam did not institute marriage.
Taoism did not institute marriage.
Atheism did not institute marriage.
The world system of power/weakness and predator/prey did not institute marriage.

Then the man said, ‘This, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:23-24)

Marriage was instituted by the God of the Bible and was ordained by Him to be a monogamous lifelong covenant between one man and one woman. Marriage, as instituted by God, is right and good, and contributes to the flourishing and the stability of families and cultures.

The “marriage” between Matt Lauer and his wife was not really a marriage at all. It was allegedly an understanding of sorts between an unrepentant serial adulterer who lived apart from his family for the majority of the time and a long-suffering heartbroken wife.

However, before my fellow Christians start piling on Matt Lauer here or give in to the temptation to look upon him with disdain, let’s please remember that without God’s grace, “such were some of you”…. and me….. and all of us. We are all sinners in need of God’s grace and mercy and cleansing and forgiveness. Please pray for God to use this situation to draw Matt Lauer (and others around him) to Himself. In Christ, there is always hope, even after public humiliation and shaming such as the kind we have witnessed with Matt Lauer, Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, and others. Sometimes the uncovering of secret sin is actually God’s mercy. May that be the case in some of the circumstances we have read of recently. May God have mercy, and may He be magnified and glorified.


In All Circumstances


1 thess 5-18


What does ‘in all circumstances’ mean?

I mean, we’re probably fine with ‘give thanks’, since it is, after all, ‘the will of God’, but in all circumstances?

Well, that’s just exaggeration. It has to be. Hasn’t it?

Not exactly.



The Problem With ‘In All Circumstances’

Modern society (even modern Christian society) has a tendency to run on a situation-response system, in that what we do rests largely on how we are feeling and what’s going on at the moment. For this reason, the idea of giving thanks in all circumstances is rather foreign, at least to us.

By contrast, Hebrew society has been doing this for millennia. There are dozens of Psalms which begin with lament but end in praise despite no change occurring physically – the change is in the psalmist’s heart, as they repent of failing to trust God.

I understand that Thanksgiving is over. Those of us who took vacations are likely already back – and that’s intentional. I waited until today to post this in part because it’s more effective further away from Thanksgiving.

After all, everyone is talking about thankfulness on Thanksgiving (at least in the United States). It’s easy to enthuse about how thankful you are for everything, the same way it’s easy to be generous on Christmas or make resolutions on New Year’s Day.

But now – just five days after Thanksgiving – you’ve likely hardly thought about being thankful today. Right?

Thankfulness should be a year-round thing. So should charity (Christmas) and faithfulness (New Year’s), to name but a few.

Thanksgiving – and other holidays like it, celebrating positive aspects such as thankfulness – can be very useful to Christianity. We can use them to point unbelievers to the Bible, as many do. But be wary that you do not relegate such aspects to solely these occasions.

Don’t just be thankful at Thanksgiving – give thanks in all circumstances.



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Word Study – Love

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What is love?

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as ‘strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties’, which is accurate, but that’s not what we usually use love as. Love is more likely to be a verb than a noun – for instance, I love you rather than Love is what I have for you.

The term ‘love’ first appears in the Bible (at least in the ESV) in Genesis 22:2: ‘He said, “Take your son, your only son Isaac, whom you love, and go to the land of Moriah, and offer him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains of which I shall tell you.”‘

In this context, as in many other contexts throughout the Bible, love refers to what we think of now as paternal love. An oft-used – but still applicable – metaphor is that of a mother bear protecting her cubs.

But not all love in the Bible is paternal. The four most common words in original Biblical manuscripts are phileo, agape, storgē, and eros.


I. Phileo: Love of Friendship

Phileowhich is used most noticeably in contrast to agape in John 21, is a Greek term referring to a companionable love: one between friends. To use the term ‘love’ for one’s friends nowadays would be considered rather strange, so certain translators may choose to render this as a less amorous term; nevertheless, it is still a form of love.

Companionable love is an important but lacking aspect in society in modern times. Love is a term that has become increasingly polarised in recent times, hence the taboo nature of love among friends. This definition is virtually unknown nowadays, the word typically meaning either relational (among family members) or amorous (between lovers) love.


II. Agape: Love of Esteem

Agape refers to a love born of esteem for that which is loved. This, too, is an obsolete usage in modern English, typically replaced by ‘respect’ or ‘awe’. Though used rarely outside of the Bible, it appears 320 times in the New Testament.

An agape love wants only the best for that which is loved. It is unselfish and is best exemplified by 1 Corinthians 13, which serves well as a general description of the term. In other words, this is a platonic love.


III. Storgē: Love of Relation

Storgē is a love for one’s relation. Purely platonic, it is rare in the Bible, usually appearing only in the sense of negation (e.g., ‘unloving’ in Romans 1:31).

At its most basic form, however, storgē refers to a love for one’s family member – for one’s spouse, child, parent, relation, or even pet.


IV. Eros: Earthly Love

Eros is a curious case. Referring to a love existent for the lover’s benefit, it does not appear in the Bible, despite being a common Greek term. Why?

Well, eros represents all that the Bible opposes. It embodies egocentrism, lust, and self-satisfaction all in one. Eros is an earthly love, one which desires more for itself. It has the implication of sexual love, but by itself, sexual love is not morally inclined. Indeed, it is encouraged in the Bible, and it is the way God’s relationship to us is portrayed (translated typically as a form of the word know).

But nevertheless, eros is absent from the Bible for two reasons: firstly, it carries with it the baggage of its Roman origins: Eros (whose Roman counterpart was the more famous Cupid) was the Greek god of lust (though not always explicitly; he is also sometimes portrayed as the god of ‘sexual attraction’). And secondly (and more to the point), it is clearly not a part of the Bible’s vision. Marriage is, indeed, a temporary, earthly thing, and its facets should be enjoyed (as God directs), but eternally, our love and complete allegiance is to God, not to one another. It is a brotherly love that we are commanded to share eternally, not a sexual one.


In conclusion, the term love may be misleading. It can refer to friendship, honour, family, or lust. At any rate, it is a mistake merely to read passages containing this term without context or understanding. Properly interpreting love is not something to be taken lightly.

But it is supposed to be more common than it is. We are to have brotherly love for each other (see Hebrews 13:1, which puts it succinctly). So do so.


Love one another.



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The Colonel


This article is a guest post by Christine Pack of the Sola Sisters blog.

To the right is a picture of my grandfather, Lt. Colonel Arthur Harris, who fought in WWII. Also pictured are my grandmother Helen, my uncle and my mother.

My grandfather, whom we all called ‘the Colonel’, was a complicated man: very smart, very complex, sometimes difficult, and sometimes hard on his loved ones. He was an engineer with a speciality in metallurgy, and after the end of the war, he contributed to the rebuilding effort in Europe. One of the minor – though interesting – projects he participated on was the melting-down and repurposing of a very large bronze statue of Adolf Hitler. During this project, he gave a picture of my mother to the bronze craftsman, who transformed the statue of Hitler into several smaller bronze sculptures, including a bust of my mother as a little girl. That small bust of my mother still sits in her home today.

752D05B4-54D2-4A93-89FD-8C6856B31E00The Colonel was a hobbyist historian who spent some of his spare time researching our family tree. He researched as far back as the middle ages, and this was back when doing research meant writing letters and going through legal records, not just googling. Thanks to him, those in our family knew that we had English, Scottish, Welsh and French blood running through our veins.

He drank 20-year old scotch, played the fiddle, threw legendary parties with his wife Helen, and told the best stories you’ve ever heard. He read the Bible every day, and towards the end of his life, we had several meaningful conversations about God, regrets, forgiveness, family, and God’s good purposes in our lives. Like the great Reformer Martin Luther, my grandfather was deeply affected by the book of Romans, which he told me he kept returning to again and again throughout his life. Deep waters.

People sometimes change as they get older. Some become meaner, some nicer, some more eccentric or outspoken. My grandfather became more gentle. Remember where I noted above that he was ‘complicated’? He was. But over time, his earlier, rougher edges were honed off by the daily, continuous, transformative effect of God’s word on his mind and on his life. By the end of his life, I saw a man who was at peace; who was gentle, humble, and mindful of God’s great forgiveness that had been extended to him through Christ’s atoning work. In short, he was ready to meet his Maker. He died in 2012 at the age of 94.

Thinking of him and missing him (and my Nana) this Veterans Day.


Here We Stand

Here We Stand

It’s a question as old as time itself: how did we get here? There are many conflicting views, but here are some of the major beliefs as to the origin of the universe.

Beliefs (1)

The first theory we’ll look at is the primary evolutionary belief: the Big Bang.

According to the Big Bang Theory, the universe – and time itself – began nearly fourteen billion years ago, during a spontaneous explosion of infinitely compressed matter. The explanation for this event is still unknown according to evolutionary theory. Supposedly, after the Big Bang, the universe, superheated to incredible amounts of heat, expanded at incredible speed, eventually cooling down enough to allow the creation of various elements, then stars, and finally planets and life.

Key problems with the Big Bang theory include the lack of explanation for the original explosion or existence of matter as well as the sheer impossibility of life originating from non-living components.


Beliefs (2)

The next theory (and the primary Biblical theory) is that of divine creation.

According to this theory, the events of Genesis are to be taken literally, with creation occurring in six literal days. Holding up this is the usage of ‘evening’ and ‘morning’ in the original passages of Genesis 1.

Some problems raised with this theory are those of the believed non-existence of an omnipotent, eternal being or the believed impossibility of a six-day creation.


Beliefs (3)

The Day-Age Theory holds that the days in Genesis are actually long amounts of time, allowing evolution and/or an old earth.

This theory holds up its argument with 2 Peter 3:8 (‘a day is as a thousand years’), though this verse, opponents of the theory argue, does not apply to the Genesis account. It is also supported by the variable use of the word day in Hebrew, though the original texts are clearly referring to a twenty-four hour period (similarly to the use of the word in the phrase ‘in my day’).


BeliefsThe last theory we’ll look at is the Gap Theory, which postulates a billions-of-years period between Genesis 1:1 and 1:2.

The Gap Theory holds up its argument by stating that divine creation is flatly impossible, and by pointing out that there is technically no indication that time does not pass between the aforementioned verses.

Key problems with this theory include the complete lack of an implication that time passes between Genesis 1:1 and 1:2, and the statement that the creation was ‘very good’ multiple times during creation, since a creation with preexisting death (as a result of sin) would not be ‘very good’ by any means.



There is a large wish to compromise between the divine Creation and Big Bang theories in certain Christian circles which wish to remain respectable with their evolutionary friends.

However, these theories typically consider Genesis as something that it is not: a story, or a metaphor, or a non-literal account. There are dozens of other, smaller compromise theories, but the two shown in this article should give a good example of what this field of blended Christianity and evolution looks like.

Draw from them what you will.


Deo Gloria



I wanted to write this yesterday. I really did.

It’s my own fault, to be honest. I’ve spent quite a lot of time on other things – things which shouldn’t take up my time.

And that is the point of the Reformation. Soli Deo gloria. To the glory of God alone. It’s our ministry’s motto, as well.

But what does that mean? What’s the point of Soli Deo gloria?


Soli Deo Gloria: A Biography

Soli Deo gloria didn’t start out as ‘to the glory of God alone’. It really means ‘glory to God alone’, but even earlier in its lifetime, it had yet another meaning, the one used by the earliest coiners of the word: ‘glory to the only God’.

The first people to use Soli Deo gloria were not the reformers. Such a phrase might even have been entirely foreign to them, though it was likely in use by that time. Rather, the original use of the phrase was as a postscript to the musical works of Johann Sebastian Bach, where he abbreviated it SDG.


Later still, in the mid-twentieth century, Soli Deo gloria was combined with the other four solae to create the first known instances of the five solae together. They were not all used in the Reformation, but they do well to encapsulate the idea behind it: the fundamentals of the church returned to the stage and cast in a starring role.


Soli Deo Gloria: A Meaning

So what does Soli Deo gloria mean?

This is by far the most contentiously translated sola of the bunch. While others are straightforward, Soli Deo gloria can be rephrased as ‘to the glory of God alone’, ‘glory to God alone’, or ‘glory in all things to God alone’, to name but a few. Each of these takes a slightly different point of view, but all boil down to the concept expressed by Paul in 1 Corinthians 10:31 – ‘So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.’

So what is the application?

Firstly, beware pitfalls. Do not misconstrue God’s will as your own, lest you consider your own desires over that of both your fellow man and your righteous God.

Secondly, glorify God in all things. This is a somewhat strange idea, since many things we do have nothing to do (at first glance) with moral or spiritual choices, but if we delve deeper we can tell that even our everyday actions – the way we talk, the people we befriend or spurn, even the very food and drink we consume – have Biblical aspects to them. Emphasise godly friendships, consider terminating ungodly ones. Care for your body as a temple of God (1 Corinthians 6:19). Strive to lead others to Christ by your speech and your actions.

Glorify God in all you do, and glorify God alone.